Tony Porter: "Don't 'Act Like a Man'"

Many who come to our office for help have gotten caught in a relationship in which they are treated with less human dignity they deserve. There are women working multiple jobs at the expense of their health and esteem, while the male figure in her life does nothing to help. We see women give, and then lose everything when the male figure in her life walks out, leaves her with more unpaid bills than she can handle, and then skips jobs in order to avoid paying child support. And we've seen men lose everything because, in a momentary fit of rage and unable to express themselves constructively, they resort to killing the woman they love and cherish. Regardless of whether the perpetrator is male or female, everyone suffers, and our community is less than it could be.  This is why we teach individuals and couples about how to have healthier and more satisfying relationships. It's not something that is taught in school, or even the family sometimes. And yet, our happiness and success in life, and the well-being of our communities, depends on how well we are able to relate to other people!

Today, we want to share Tony Porter's call to men: Don't "act like a man." Telling powerful stories from his own life, he shows how this mentality, drummed into so many men and boys, can lead men to disrespect, mistreat and abuse women and each other. His solution: Break free of the "man box."

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