Adoption is a beautiful and loving expression of how God hand-picks and unites families together. Taking the first step on your adoption journey, however, isn't easy! It's likely that you've already wrestled with untold struggles and emotions about starting your family. Once you start to consider infant adoption, how do you know if you and your spouse are ready? When should you make that first call? Here are some things to consider:
Your marriage is strong and you have similar ideas about how to raise children and have learned to compromise and communicate.
You are not embarrassed because you are not able to have biological children or by others reactions to you wanting to adopt children.
You do not want to adopt because you have marriage problems or because your life is empty. Only if your life is full and your marriage is stable will you have something to give to a child or to children.
You both have a good sense of humor and like yourselves and each other.
You have "gone public" with your plan for adoption and are comfortable with that.
You have your friends' and family's support with your decision to adopt.
You have read about adoption options and have decided which is best for you.
You have fantasized about becoming a parent for the first time or, again, if you already have children.
You are both "ready" to adopt and for all of the changes that go along with that.
You have discussed your expectations from a child in your home and each other's expectations.
You have discussed what it would require to parent a child that may be an infant, toddler, teenager, and then into adulthood. Adoption is a lifelong commitment.
You have discussed the cost involved with adoption and raising a child.
You have discussed taking time off with your employer(s) to bond with your new child or children.
You have checked into your health insurance coverage to see if an adopted child will be covered and how soon they can be added on.
You have checked into daycare availability and expense, if needed.
You have discussed the lifestyle changes that will occur and are willing to make them to accommodate a child or children.
Your most important sign is that you are both willing to give a child or children your unconditional love for a lifetime. You must be totally committed to them no matter what may come. All children deserve a family!
These signs of readiness are important for you and your spouse to be considering but please don't feel that you have to have everything lined up and arranged before you come and visit us! Catholic Charities is hosting an Adoption Orientation on Friday, July 22nd from 2 to 4 pm at the Newman University Cafe, 236 San Jose Suite 39, Dodge City, KS. There is no cost to attend and if you have even begun to toy with the idea of infant adoption, this is a great opportunity for you to come, connect with others who are considering the same idea, and find out more! For more information, contact Lori Titsworth at 620-792-1393, or Amy Falcon at 620-227-1590.